my nonacademic emotional mind lately

Anyone you choose to date or build a relationship with should know some basics about you–and you should know some basics about that person.

I’d rather know from the jump if a person is a homophobe/biphobe or some misogynistic creep. Absolutely not. Start out with honesty and clarity, and absolutely do not adjust your identity or pretend to be hetero for the world that privileges cis-heterosexuality. The way I see it folk who can’t deal with us and act a fool are helping me narrow the playing field over the long haul. A person who does not accept me as I am is not worthy of my time or energy. As you grow older you begin to realize that fact.

I don’t hide myself from anyone who wants to be in my space. Misogyny does not go away if I mask myself–and the closet then becomes a prison, and not just a private space. I’m saying that as a bi cis-woman I don’t think that the closet or pretending to be straight keeps me safe. In fact, it made things worse when I kept myself closeted.

I’d rather know up front what I’m dealing with.

I do what’s safe for me.

I’m out in my community, and I’m out to my family.

I know about domestic abuse, sexism, homophobia/transphobia/biphobia.

I know that some of our worst enemies come from our own, and make it a point of wishing negativity on our own for no other reason than “misery loves company.” I don’t do that to my own. I rebuke all negativity in the name of Jesus.

I also know enough about women’s history, Black history, and LGBTQ history to know that hiding yourself does not save you, or as Audre Lorde once wrote, “your silence will not save you.”

As such, I refuse to be silent in the face of bigotry. You do what you do and go in peace.

Follow your heart and rebuke the negativity. Anyone who does not respect your boundaries or objectifies you is unworthy of your energy or company. If for you that means no romance then so be it. Meditate on it, and follow what the Holy Spirit tells you about a person’s true intent.

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“We’ve been turned away from our bodies, shamefully taught to ignore them, to strike them with that stupid sexual modesty; we’ve been made victims of the old fool’s game: each one will love the other sex. I’ll give you your body and you’ll give me mine. But who are the men who give women the body that women blindly yield to them? Why so few texts? Because so few women have as yet won back their body. Women must write through their bodies, they must invent the impregnable language that will wreck partitions, classes and rhetorics, regulations and codes, they must submerge, cut through, get beyond the ultimate reverse-discourse, including the one that laughs at the very idea of pronouncing the word ‘silence’, the one that, aiming for the impossible, stops short before the word ‘impossible’ and writes it as ‘the end.'” — Helene Cixous, from Laugh of the Medusa

(not) edge #30days #30days2018 by Cherie Ann Turpin

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you living in the shadows

you demanding my trust

you see that word feminist and

your dick gets soft because

you fear rejection

you won’t be able to take me to the edge

you kept yourself limited to one definition of edge

shadow blind because

the edge is in many spaces and

not just in one space or place

no singularity of edge and

you missed that in

your eagerness to catch me off guard and

what makes you think

your vision of edge is everybody else’s edge?

you get all pissy

about expressing feelings or

you get all pissy

about limits and trigger exposure while

revealing

you are unworthy of trust when

it comes to my physical and psychological safety so

that’s not edge

that’s predatory

working on that issue

unpacking your fear of rejection by strong women

that’s edgy

that’s sexy

that’s worthy of my trust

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“Girlfriend Experience: Part Two” #10 by Cherie Ann Turpin (30 Stories in 30 Days) #30days

“Girlfriend Experience: Part Two” #10

by Cherie Ann Turpin

(30 Stories in 30 Days)

#30days

“Genesynthetics Recalling Gen-4 ‘Girlfriend Experience’ Syns”
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by Ian Roland
Lunar Manhattan – Sunday, 23 July, 2046
(Reuters): Genesynthetics, Incorporated is recalling all fourth generation (Gen-4) synthetic female companions, popularly known from its commercials and ads as the “girlfriend experience” syns.  Approximately 10,000 syns are being recalled to fix a potentially hazardous defect in their personality programming, a glitch that has been alleged to have been planted in the newest generation of female companion syns by saboteurs posing as programmers who invaded the Greenland factory.

The ultra-radical terrorist army Realidad has claimed responsibility for the defective programming, which resulted in several cases of syns exhibiting serious behavioral glitches that, at times appeared to resemble angry, hostile, hysterical, argumentative, and even uppity women.  Some of the syns were also programmed with triggers designed to physically harm their owners:  owners who physically disciplined their synthetic women were shocked to find themselves being punched and slapped back by these same syns.

At least 100 of the Gen-4’s have escaped their owners and are suspected of forming a syn faction of Realidad for the purpose of fashioning a syn liberation army to free their sisters from sexual slavery.  Several CEOs, celebrities, and other VIPs with defective Gen-4’s have reported large amounts of cash and jewelry missing, ostensibly to fund the human and syn factions of Realidad.
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A publicist for Genesynthetics has declined to comment on the syn rebellion or syn calls for liberation, but has promised the owners of Gen-4 syns compensation for losses and injury, along with a newly programmed syn with refreshed physical features and submissive personality programming, including free “courtesan” card options.

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1 Billion Women violated is an atrocity.1 Billion dancing is a revolution. NEW short film by @eveensler

One Billion Rising.

I am RISING with #1billionrising on 14 February.  Will you rise?  Watch this short film by Eve Ensler and South African filmmaker Tony Stroebel.

Please send the film http://ow.ly/dVLJK to everyone you know, and post it to every social network you are on.

We are about to shake the planet, and your participation is crucial.

Please use the hashtag: #1billionrising  when tweeting.   Join the movement to end violence against women! Power to the people-let’s set it off, sisters and brothers and bring peace to our planet!  Click on the links and make it happen!

What have I done lately?

Friend of mine did a search today on WorldCAT to see how many libraries carry my book [How Three Black Women Writers Combined Spiritual and Sensual Love (Mellon Press)]: so far, 43 university libraries, including Princeton, UNC, Harvard, Tulane, Cambridge–and several universities in Asia, Australia, Canada, New Zealand…made my day! Check it out for yourself on Amazon!