a free-spirited Black woman speaks

anon asked: People love and accept free-spirited white women, but not women of other races. Why is this? What has been your experience?

Here’s 54 years of living as a free-spirited Black woman/femme, for better or for worse. Yes, I get dragged for it, but live long enough you won’t care. Just be concerned for and have empathy for others–not just yourself, but also not without yourself.

I also ask this question on occasion, but it’s not as if I don’t already know the answer. We already know why (we, as in Black women/femmes). I never married, had no children, and I have no regrets. Too many of my friends are now divorced or are about to be divorced.

Date, be consistent in monogamy/polyamory but don’t marry unless you just HAVE to marry. Pay your own bills, and make sure he they she pays his/her/their own bills without coming to you.